Thoughts to ponder on: have we ever sat down to ask why so many people fool around outside their respective ‘happily married homes’?
Why are thousands of marriages breaking up every day? Why do families split, destroying children’s emotional lives, and traumatizing the broken partners? I believe most of these marital crises stem from incomplete sex lives.
Most women have never experienced orgasm or deeply satisfied sexually in their marital homes by husbands. Thus, they keep scouting around for the “Mr. Right” that will make them feel like a real woman; inwardly.
And our men who are randy and unfaithful might be doing it because they sense their wives are not deeply in love with them. And all men like all women are all searching for that deep emotional love.
But meanwhile, deep love comes when two partners are united heart to heart, soul-to-soul and body-to-body. I have heard lots of people say that sex isn’t everything and that it is overemphasized in relationships.
We all know that compatibility and companionship really count, but sex is very important and necessary for a happy marriage or relationship. No marriage can be happy or fulfilled without ‘SEX’.
As far as ‘Chichi’ is concerned, being married and living together without sexual fulfillment is like cooking a sumptuous dinner full of assorted delicacies; you can look at it, touch it, smell its aroma, then go as far as tasting it, but you can’t sit down to savour the good meal.
You can be married and compatible and also do lots of things together but without a satisfying sex life, your union can’t be seen to be a complete and happy one. Any man or woman, who says otherwise, obviously has problems with his or her sex life.
One other essential part of marriage or relationship is ‘companionship’. Having things in common makes you so compatible and bonded to each other. Playing together, seeing movies, picnicking and what have you, are all parts of what makes marriage fun and exciting. Yet, sex is one of the strongest and most important feelings we have in life, physically, mentally and emotionally.
Underestimating SEX is a very foolish and dangerous thing to do. Because that might make you become so unhappy and bored for ages.
Sex is the closest two people could get-physically. Anyway, we literally can’t stay any closer than that. But there’s a bond formed mentally and emotionally.
I believe God gave us our sex organs so that we will be bonded to each other forever in marital bliss. Sex was also introduced to us for procreation but if it was just for it, then sexual feelings would cease when a woman is barren and a man impotent.
If a man and a woman are sexually bonded in marriage and also satisfy each other perfectly, there would be no need to be adulterous or unfaithful to each other. When they are in love with each other and have quality sex lives, then why gallivant?
Some women who have never been deeply in love with a man don’t understand that quality sex is among, what they need to keep their relationships going. Both parties need it. Believe it or not, it is what makes a successful marriage.
Want my opinion? I believe so deeply in sex; sex, love and commitment. But be warned, casual sex could be very dangerous. I don’t mean the deadly disease which is becoming the order of the day. But the emotional batteries that can ‘scar’ you for life, especially the women that go from one man to another without any emotional feelings attached or lots of emotional feelings that are not reciprocated.
What we all should be looking out for is what makes us happy and whom we are compatible with; that one person who shares our likes and dislikes.
Caring is loving and loving is caring. When you focus your love and attention on anything, it will thrive, be it your spouse, your kids, your parents, your employees, your boss, your pals, your animals, your plants-attention is like warming rays of sunshine.
And don’t forget yourself. If you don’t pay attention to yourself, you really can’t pay attention to anyone else. If you don’t eat right, you won’t feel right, and how can you be loving and kind to anyone else if you’re tense, anxious, depressed, or have pains in your stomach?
So paying attention starts with yourself, then it spreads to your spouse, kids, parents and friends.
If you are truly ready to pay attention; real attention, listen and respond with care, the rewards are far greater than you might imagine.
The few people I know who have happy relationships all pay attention. They have learned that the greatest joy in the whole world is to be deeply loved, cared for and pleasured sexually by your ‘better half’. This is truly the joy of marriage and the joy of marriage is truly the real joy of life.
Written by Rita